From my high school wrestling coach, who taught me to have a “fighting heart,” to horse trainers like Rick Steed, coaching has been how I made the most significant accomplishments in my life. Quitting alcohol after 23 years, running a half marathon at 55, and building an exceptional marriage, happened because I sought out skilled coaches.

Society often teaches us to shrink ourselves, dimming our light to fit in. From a young age, we hear phrases like, “Don’t toot your own horn,” or “Stay humble.” It’s a culture of minimizing, where standing out feels like breaking an unwritten rule. But what if playing small isn’t serving anyone? What if owning your value could inspire, connect, and elevate not only yourself but everyone around you? Let’s explore why positive self-talk matters and how it can transform your life.

Parents are their own worst critics. I hear it all the time, especially from moms, though dads aren’t immune. “I suck as a parent.” “I can’t believe I did that.” These words might feel harmless or even like a sign of responsibility, but they’re anything but. Constantly berating yourself for mistakes, big or small, can seem noble, but it’s not helping you or your kids. It’s time to take a closer look at this mindset. Let’s dig into why self-criticism as a parent does more harm than good and what you can do instead.

Brené Brown once said, “Who we are and how we engage with the world are much stronger predictors of how our kids will do than what we know about parenting.” When you let shame guide your actions, you teach your kids to feel ashamed too. But when you respond with strength and purpose, you model resilience and confidence.

Why do we often have a tendency to devalue humans rather than condemn the actions of humans? Why in this example do you think so many people attacked the man? Why, if people disagreed with the action, didn’t they use the law and regulation put in place by our society to discipline or punish him and leave it at that? If they felt the law or regulation wasn’t an adequate deterrent for the action, why didn’t they attempt to change the law or regulations? Instead, they attacked the man. Why?

I stand in a category so rare that most would say I shouldn’t exist. I should be drunk, broke, sick, in jail, or dead. But I’m not. I’m alive. And I’m thriving. My life shows that the odds have nothing to do with our results. I am not special or different than any other person. I am not smarter, more intelligent, or more gifted or talented than anyone else. People have overcome much more with fewer resources than I have. I’ve used patterns that work to defy the odds again and again. Anyone can do what I’ve done or accomplish what they want to do. Anyone can make radical change and beat the statistics when they use the processes and systems I’ve used. My purpose is to get you on track to get what you want, regardless of the odds.